Rik's Books for Gay Men
Love Between Menoffers a communication skill-building approach to resolving conflicts in gay relationships. Clear communication can help you empathize with your partner and develop greater sense of intimacy in your relationship.
For more on my approach to working with gay couples, click on Couples. Love Between Men is also available on Kindle |
Reclaiming Your Lifeis a guide to healing from early abuse, homophobia, addictions, and other self-defeating behavior.
Part I looks at how growing up gay in a homophobic culture is similar in many ways to growing up in a dysfunctional or abusive family, because of the secrecy, self-blame, and shame that often accompany the realization that we’re somehow different, but without much support for understanding what it means to feel attracted to the same sex. In addition, experiences of early physical, sexual, or emotional abuse can sometimes lead to the development of a “false self,” the internalization of negative messages, or the development of self-destructive behavior. Part II shows how gay men can recover from early abuse, internalized homophobia, and self-defeating behavior, such as alcohol and drug abuse, sexual compulsion, body image, and problems with food or debt. It offers chapters on how to counter internalized homophobic and other negative messages, expand the moment between impulse and action, and work through the feelings that are likely to arise when we stop using self-defeating behaviors to push our emotions away. Reclaiming Your Life is also available on Kindle and other ebook formats! |