Rik Isensee, LCSW

Helping Gay Men Thrive!

Gay Therapist Rik Isensee, LCSW


For over thirty years, Rik has been helping gay men and gay couples:

  • Solve conflicts and feel more connected in gay relationships
  • Recover from abuse and self-defeating behavior
  • Feel great about being gay; and
  • Thrive in the face of life’s transitions!
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Rik's Books for Gay Men

Rik is the author of several books for gay men :

Love Between Men, helping gay couples resolve conflicts by meeting the underlying needs of both partners.

Reclaiming Your Life, a guide for gay men in recovery from early abuse, homophobia, and self-defeating behavior.

Are You Ready? The Gay Man's Guide to Thriving at Midlife.

We’re Not Alone, a young adult novel.

The God Squad, a spoof on the "ex-gay" movement.

For reviews and more info, click on Rik's books.

Gay Positive Therapy

Gay positive therapy (sometimes referred to as "gay or lgbt affirmative therapy") assumes that same-sex attraction is a natural orientation. While we may have various issues we need to deal with, including the impact of homophobic attitudes from our families and the surrounding culture, the fact that we’re gay is not a focus of therapeutic change.

For more info, click on Gay Positive Therapy.


Gay Couples Therapy

Successful resolution of conflict in gay couples counseling can help you feel more connected, and re-ignite the love that brought you together in the first place!

For more info, click on Gay Couples.


Gay Men in Recovery

Many gay men have suffered from family abuse; homophobic churches and schools; alcohol and substance abuse; and self-defeating behaviors. Learn how to recover from all kinds of abuse, and reclaim your life!

For more info, see the description of Reclaiming Your Life under Rik's books.


Gay Life Coaching

Gay Life Coaching helps you identify and maximize your strengths in pursuit of goals that serve your core values! 

For more info, click on Coaching.


Gay Men Thriving at Esalen!

For the past ten years, Rik has been offering Gay Men Thriving workshops at Esalen, a retreat center with hot springs perched on the cliffs overlooking the ocean at Big Sur.

For more info about our retreats: click on Esalen.


Countering "Ex-Gay" Claims

There is no scientific evidence for treatment or prevention of a gay sexual orientation. Attempts to change sexual orientation are based on misguided assumptions about the nature of sexual development. Many religious concerns have been addressed by gays within their own religious traditions.

For more info, click on ExGay Claims.


About Rik

For more about Rik's background, click on About Rik; to schedule an appointment, click on Contact. named one of top 100 counseling sites!

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